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Married Life: Does It Change?


Hello EDP fam! I know it's been awhile since i've written but I promise I have a few posts up my sleeve to share with you on Wedding Wednesday's! Can you believe our girl Ashley is getting married in less than 2 months... EEK, so exciting! I can't wait to see All The Things and how it turns out! 

I'm a recent newlywed, it's been about 8 months already, which is SO crazy to think about! Time is seriously flying. The question I seem to keep getting asked over and over is, how's married life? Does it feel different? Each time it comes up, I pause and quietly drag out the answer no... as if i'm giving the wrong answer. But, being real, it doesn't feel that different or really change who we are and have always been, which I supposed is a good thing, right?  

What's life like after marriage?

My husband and I dated off and on for about 7 years, and lived together for a year before he proposed. By the time our wedding came and went we had lived under the same roof for 2 years and been a part of each others lives for 9! I certainly don't regret the decisions we made to get us where we are today, but I think there could be something really special about waiting to move in together until you're officially husband and wife. A drastic (physical) change like that would make married life feel different, you'd be learning how to adapt and work with each other in a completely different way prior to saying "I Do."  

I will say, in the overall big picture, yes, things change. At least for me, it did mentally. We now look at our lives as one, we share bank accounts, we have to make decisions together (almost) always :) and my mindset and attitude towards our relationship differs. I know that he's mine forever, no matter the good bad or ugly. 

So, if you're about to get married or you're a recent newlywed, it's ok to answer yes or no to the question. At the end of the day there's no right or wrong, it's a positive and exciting life that you're now officially doing with your partner - congrats! 

xo Alaina